I am connected
✨I am connected
✨ I am safe
✨ I am loved
✨ I can have an impact: I can engage the object (person) and trust that I’ll be responded to.
✨ I can delight others
✨ I can be an object of delight.
The above are all hallmarks of the emotional experience that characterises secure attachment.
In our earliest relationships we learn that we are safe, loved and valued, precisely because that IS our experience.
This knowledge is stored in implicit (unconscious, non-verbal) memory.
It becomes our ‘internal working model’ – a kind of template for love and relationships that we bring with us into the world.
The internal beliefs associated with secure attachment are:
– The world is a safe place – People are kind and trustworthy – There will be someone to help me if I need it – Someone will comfort me if I’m frightened or in distress – I can be part of a positive interaction where we both enjoy each other’s company
A secure attachment sets you up with a “secure base” from which to confidently explore the world. Once you venture out, there is a safe haven to return to.
Many of us missed out on some of the crucial relational experiences needed to form a secure attachment.
Life becomes difficult to navigate. But all is not lost.
Therapy can be a place to explore our early experiences and understand how they have impacted us. It can also be a place to build a secure attachment in adulthood, so life gets easier – psychologists call this ‘earnt secure.’
There’s always hope. Would you like to start this journey? Send me a DM and let’s chat.
I am a clinical psychologist transformation coach and energy healer with 25 years of experience in facilitating people to better mental health
✨ I am safe
✨ I am loved
✨ I can have an impact: I can engage the object (person) and trust that I’ll be responded to.
✨ I can delight others
✨ I can be an object of delight.
The above are all hallmarks of the emotional experience that characterises secure attachment.
In our earliest relationships we learn that we are safe, loved and valued, precisely because that IS our experience.
This knowledge is stored in implicit (unconscious, non-verbal) memory.
It becomes our ‘internal working model’ – a kind of template for love and relationships that we bring with us into the world.
The internal beliefs associated with secure attachment are:
– The world is a safe place – People are kind and trustworthy – There will be someone to help me if I need it – Someone will comfort me if I’m frightened or in distress – I can be part of a positive interaction where we both enjoy each other’s company
A secure attachment sets you up with a “secure base” from which to confidently explore the world. Once you venture out, there is a safe haven to return to.
Many of us missed out on some of the crucial relational experiences needed to form a secure attachment.
Life becomes difficult to navigate. But all is not lost.
Therapy can be a place to explore our early experiences and understand how they have impacted us. It can also be a place to build a secure attachment in adulthood, so life gets easier – psychologists call this ‘earnt secure.’
There’s always hope. Would you like to start this journey? Send me a DM and let’s chat.
I am a clinical psychologist transformation coach and energy healer with 25 years of experience in facilitating people to better mental health